Fashion 101 with Ouma Tema- Grooming

What constitude a well grommed woman (in mannerism and apearence). basic grooming skills, what constitute first appearance in as far as grooming is concerned.

Would you be comfortable with the idea of a stay at home husband?

They say that behind every great man stands a great woman. But times are changing and the saying could now be reversed, according to one successful businesswoman Helena who spoke to the Times newspaper…..women who want to reach the top need a husband who is prepared to stay at home and look after the kids. Really? Are woman finally giving in to the idea of having a house husband.

Are stay over and sleepover relationships that bad?

According to relationship experts - people, especially Young adults are slowing the road to marriage with “stay over and sleepover relationships”, they are encouraging you to rather enjoy committed relationships without sleeping over or even living together prior to marriage. But doesn’t practice makes perfect! I must sample or test drive you for at least 2 weeks or less staying over…..otherwise how will I know if I can’t stand you in marriage if you don’t sleep over . what do you prefer these days

Half the truth or the whole truth?

Your boyfriend/husband coincidentally bumps into an old university friend (who happens to be a woman) and they decide to catch up over a bite to eat. You happen to give him a call, just to check up on him. When you asked him where he was, He responds by telling you that he is just chilling with a friend. Ladies hate being lied to right? But would you say the man lied in this scenario. Or would you say he gave you half the truth?

Is it okay to share your baby making plans?

Is it a good idea to tell your friends or colleagues that you and your partner are trying to conceive……doesn’t it put pressure on you? Because if nothing is happening I’m likely going to ask you why isn’t there a bun in the oven ,  yet you’ve been planning to have a baby since 4 months ago.

Fashion 101 with Ouma Tema- Correct bra size

Correct bra size. Health benefits and figure benefits; Cleavage bra and non cleavage bra.......

Do you have dolls or teddy bears in your cars?

Do you guys have dolls or teddy bears in your cars? Why not? I’m told by some motorists that those things are meant to protect their cars from accidents and theft….and once somebody tells you what the dolls are for, does it automatically suggests that they frequently go to Sangomas…. And there’s nothing wrong with it because it’s an approved belief which is practiced by a lot of people in Africa….like when a Christian would take their car to Pastor to pray for it…..

But is there any truth to what’s being said about the mpopies/Barbie dolls or teddy bears we see in most cars?

If you were an employer, would you hire a person based on their credentials or looks?

Some might consider it an ugly truth that attractive people are often more likely to get jobs than those less blessed with looks. But now our appearance is emerging in legal disputes as a new kind of discrimination. “Lookism”, it is claimed, is the new racism, and should be banished from civilized societies. Economist Daniel Hamermesh argues that ugliness is no different from race or a disability, and suggests unattractive people deserve legal protection too. According to his findings - being good-looking helps you secure that position or earn you more money. Do you think we should start looking into having legal protection for unattractive people?

Men do house hold chores better than women, is this true?

Apparently Men do house-hold chores better than women? Because men hardly cook, wash, iron and clean ….When they get to do chores they are said to put their 110 % into it. Hence their work comes out so perfect. I’ve got every reason to believe this …..because today’s woman have fake nails and are always making excuses like “Oooooh I don’t want to break my nails”.

Fashion 101 with Ouma Tema-Best ways to prepare for ID picture

9 out of 10 women hate their ID driver’s license pictures. Want us to discuss why we don’t put effort when taking such pics and best ways to prepare for ID picture day.

Are some cars particularly made for female drivers?

Why do some cars particularly appeal to female drivers and others for male drivers? I’m starting to think that some manufacturers can’t crack the magic ingredient to produce cars that appeal to both male and female….. What defines a woman’s car or a man’s car, is it the color, the shape or speed?

Role Model of the Week- Maumela Mahuwa aka Vho-Susan

How much is too much ?

Most of us hear this line almost every time we are at church….”If you give…you receive more”……Which I have no problem with…..But say you and your partner have agreed that when you receive your salaries you combine them and share the responsibilities. But your partner strongly believes that after combining your salaries….you must take a huge chunk of your money combined and give to the church. You know for a fact that you are struggling….there are payments that are 3 months behind….but your partner insists ---- “Babes….let us continue giving more to the church”….more like their faith is overshadowing their financial problems…..How much is too much and where do you draw the line? How d

o you handle such a situation?

Your Ancestors are calling you and your partner is Christian, what do you do ?

We are leaving in a world were partners have the freedom to decide on the kind of religion they’d love to raise their family in….meaning you don’t necessarily have to follow your parent’s religion when it comes to the running of your house hold. Now say your partner is Christian….. . You come from a family that believes in ancestors….and it happens that you’ve got a calling….. Your Husband says no ways; we are going to pray for this thing to go away. What would you do?

Would you allow your daughter to receive an expensive gift (like a car) from her boyfriend?

Today we have boyfriends who go as far as spending half a mill on the organizing of the party and spend another half a mill rand in buying her a car! Keep in mind that this is boyfriend and girlfriend…..As a parent would you allow that and why?  Isn’t that complicating your daughter’s life? Won’t that lead to jumping from one rich guy to the next, if it doesn’t work out?

Sugar daddies and Cougars

Society often places its demands on us, trying to make us conform to accepted norms of behavior and adhere to a certain code of conduct. The same expectations often extend to our relationships as well. Yet forbidden fruit is always tempting… as some of you may know.

Once a certain behavior is treated as unacceptable, society rebels and over time become more liberal… therefore acceptable. One thing that we are still finding hard to come to terms with; is an older woman dating a younger man. So I just want to find out, why do we accept older men dating younger women… and despise older women dating younger men?

Have we lost respect for the dead?

Funerals are no longer a respected and sacred event these days?  I think a lot of people have lost respect for funerals or have lost respect for the dead….For example, these days you find people at funerals Camping, Smoking and Chilling in the cars with load music, chatting and laughing while the pastor is talking, Cell phones ringing during the service, Delay in starting a hymn when the pastor requests, some just go to the funeral to show off their killer outfit. What is your observation?

Fashion 101 with Ouma Tema- The art of buying High heels

The art of buying High heels....some can’t walk in them while others rock them 24hrs with ease. how those who can do it and help those who are struggling....is comfort an issue or girls just brave up the discomfort?

Role Model of the Week- Emelda Hlungwane

Do you think it’s untidy to leave things on the kitchen or Bathroom window pane?

Some people have the tendency to put dish washing detergent and an empty 2litre ice cream container with sponges and steel wools on their kitchen window (pane)….. Isn’t it too old school or am ghetto? Do people still put toiletries or dishwashers etc on their windows? Why do you put it there?

Would it make you feel less of a woman or man if your partner left you for their sex?

Not too long ago people would fear coming out to their friends and families. One may call this; fear of the unknown or fear of rejection. So men would be forced to become what they are not and marry women just so to prove they are men (& vice-versa). Yet what happens when he/she finally decides to come out? Families fall apart and hearts break!
Let's talk: Would it make you feel less of a woman or man if your partner left you for their sex? (As in your lady leaving you for another lady

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What kind of a relationship do you have with your neighbors?

We encourage good relations between neighbors. Now say your neighbor is a single parent and whenever there’s a need to change a light bulb, fix the tap! And even when there’s a strange sound coming from their back yard they always call your house and ask for your father or husband to come assist them.  How do you feel about that? For example, if your neighbor hears a strange noise at night and now your father or husband has to go face to face with it ….You can’t ignore the fact that you may lose your partner who was  trying to be a hero for the neighbor.

Should we entirely put the blame on Taxi Drivers for their bad driving?

We always paint a bad picture about taxi operators, how they stop wherever they want, how they are always rude and they always do sudden stops. Do we ever take a moment and think that passengers could also be to blame? For example, passengers have a tendency to shout out “I’m getting off right here” , without considering whether the stop will be a designated area. Imagine how nice it would be if we worked with taxi operators

Do you tip the petrol attendant?

Do you tip your hairdressers/barber? Do you tip your Waiters? What about Petrol attendants? They are the most patient people I’ve seen, from rocking your windshield, oil and even offer to check your tire pressure when you can actually do it yourself. Or is petrol too expensive to tip them?

Fashion 101 with ouma tema- " Leggings, Tights and Stockings"

The difference between leggings, tights and stockings…more and more people turn to mistake thick stockings to leggings visa versa. How to rock both without missing the point.