Our lives can change abruptly from one moment to the next. At such times, it’s difficult to imagine that what may seem like a catastrophe may turn out to be an opportunity. Look at the ordeal that a caterpillar has to go through in order to become a butterfly: the chrysalis is trapped in a cocoon, where everything disintegrates. Then some cells cluster together as discs that carry a genetic blueprint for a new structure. And finally the butterfly emerges.
Ordeals can bring out our full potential as human beings. My five tips will help you to re-emerge from the ashes stronger and happier.
Here are 5 crucial tips on how to start over:
1. Let go of the past
When we’re going through hard times, we tend to go over and over what happened in our mind. It’s important to stop those thoughts because they keep us trapped in the past, and unable to move forward.
Tip: wear an elastic wristband. Whenever you notice a negative thought, move the wristband over to the other arm.
2. Learn new skills
In order to rise from the ashes, we need to acquire a different set of skills from what we had before. Learning new skills gives us our confidence back, and opens up new opportunities. We don’t necessarily need to go back to school. These days there are many ways to learn new skills, especially on the Internet.
3. Start something new
When our life is shaken up, it’s a chance to start something new. Maybe there is something you’ve always wanted to do, but never ‘got around’ to? Now is the moment to take it up in order to fill our life with new meaning. And in order to re-discover confidence and joy.
4. Keep on track
Every new endeavor needs a lot of energy to get it going. The difficulty is that there is always a lag time between initial work and results. For example, the first year of blogging is hard work because there are many new skills to learn and nothing much happens in return. That’s why most blogger give up in the first year. It’s only when you grit your teeth and keep going that success finally happens.
5. Be grateful
It’s difficult to be grateful when things go awry. But it’s important in order to heal, and find a new direction. There is so much we can be grateful for. But we tend to take it for granted. If you practice gratitude, you will be a much happier person.
Tip: Each night, when you lie in bed, think of five things that you can be grateful for.
The five crucial tips will help to boost resilience. Resilience is the ability to bounce back. This doesn’t mean that your life will regain the exact shape it had before the crisis or abrupt change. After all, when we throw a rubber ball it doesn’t bounce back on exactly the same trajectory. Resilience means rising from the ashes, dusting ourselves down, and taking a new direction in life.
When I started Isidelife, I was still in the grip of the financial and emotional disaster that had befallen me. In response, I wrote my inspirational book “31 days with Victor Chauke- Inspired to inspire” which shows how to come through difficult times and find a new beginning.
Now, two years later, I’m in a new place in life. I’ve created a whole new career and my life has taken an amazing turn. That’s why I’ve decided to rewrite and enlarge my original inspirational book. It’s as if I’ve now experienced a new chapter in life and have a new, positive perspective to share with you all.
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